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Good Night Habits: At Bedtime – 6 to 12 Months

by Maxine
Posted August 18 2010 04:12pm
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Once you have a good daytime routine, your bedtime routine should go more smoothly. Here are some tips to help.

Your baby’s sleep habits are very different than what you’re used to! If your baby isn’t sleeping or is sleeping poorly, we encourage you to check out our articles on those areas, but if you’re wondering what you can do to encourage good going-to-sleep habits (and hopefully more regular sleep), read on to see what our experts suggest.

“Everyone wakes up several times each night for brief periods of time,” says Karon Foster, a Registered Nurse and Parenting Expert. “As adults, we put ourselves back to sleep most of the time. We often do it so quickly that we don’t even remember the next morning. If your baby hasn’t learned to put himself back to sleep, he may wake up crying in the night, even if he’s not hungry, teething or lonely.”

At Bedtime

Once you have a good daytime routine, your bedtime routine should go more smoothly. Here are some tips to help:

Put your baby to bed early.
Keeping your baby awake to make her more tired is a myth! This will not help her fall asleep sooner or sleep through the night. Be sure to put your baby to bed early. Overtired babies seem to have a harder time regulating their sleep at night.

However, if you need to move your baby from a later bedtime to an earlier one, make the change gradually. Don't suddenly move her bedtime from 9:30 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. Gradually move her bedtime a little earlier each night until you reach the time that seems best for you and your baby.

Stick to a bedtime routine.
You and your baby will both benefit from a regular bedtime routine that is at the same time every night. For most, it’s quiet play, a bath, a book and then lights out. You may want to add or substitute a last feeding, a song or a quiet game. Just be sure to follow the same routine every night. Babies thrive on consistency!

Use words and sounds to signal that it’s time for sleep.
Whisper something like “night, night” or “sh-sh-sh” over and over when you are soothing your baby to sleep—or back to sleep. Soon he'll link the phrase with going to sleep.

Give your baby plenty of chances to fall asleep on his own.

Put your baby in bed when she's relaxed and drowsy, rather than nursing or rocking her all the way to sleep. This helps her learn to fall asleep on her own. Without this skill, she will probably need you to help her fall asleep when she wakes up during the night. Partial wakenings in the middle of the night are normal even after baby is 6 months old; a baby who can self-soothe will be able to fall back asleep without your help and you will be able to get the sleep that you need.

 
For more about bedtime routines, see the following articles:

 

Click here to learn more about your sleep and your baby.


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You can also watch this video from our Comfort, Play & Teach video series, Bedtime with your Baby, to learn more.

 

 

 

 

What are your sleep routines with your baby? Does having a routine help? Share your experiences with other parents just like you in the comment section below.

 

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Emergence of Will (4-10 months)

by Maxine
Posted August 19 2010 09:30pm
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Were you warned? Many new parents are. Often, grandparents and other experienced parents pass on solemn warnings to new parents like you about the challenges of dealing with your baby's willful misbehaviour. But, what is the truth and what is fiction? Is it possible that your baby is capable of defying you? Of being manipulative?

It's hard to believe but, as your baby's mind develops, it can happen: Your little angel demands to be picked up or refuses to nap. Our experts have put together some tips to help you find out when this behaviour starts and what you can do about it.

The Beginnings of Will

Let’s take a closer look at your baby’s will. What does “will” look like in the beginning?

You will begin to see glimmers of your baby’s will during the period from 4 to 6 months. By 4 months of age, your baby may begin to cry in an attempt to have you come and play with her. This behaviour doesn’t usually become regular or really purposeful until the end of the sixth month or later.

The onset of your baby’s deliberate crying to call for you indicates that she has trust in your relationship, because you have reliably met her needs when she has cried in the past.

This type of crying is different from regular fussy periods, which often appear at the end of the day. The fussy periods are more related to your baby’s adjustments to her nervous system, along with her ever changing sleeping, eating and activity levels. 

What triggers will?
Your baby’s newfound ability to crawl around independently fuels his developing sense of separateness. From 7 to 10 months, your baby experiences a rapid growth in his awareness of what he can control or cause to happen. What a stage! Babies become accomplished at asserting themselves in both delightful and exasperating ways.

What is will?

At about 9 months of age, willful behaviours tend to emerge. Your baby will begin showing that she has an opinion that doesn’t always correspond with yours. 

There is an important distinction you need to make regarding what it means for your baby to “mind.” Often, what distresses parents is the fact that their baby refuses to have the same mind set as they do. If your baby doesn’t mind, it’s because she’s following her own will rather than listening to you. With a 6- to 12-month-old, this rarely stands for real defiance (as in, “I won’t”).  At this stage, it almost always means that she is simply stating her wishes (such as, “I don’t want to,” or even, “I really, really don’t want to.”) 

Defiance is rare before your baby’s first birthday and is not very typical before 18 months of age. If you think you see an early onset of defiance, ask your baby’s physician for a referral to a child guidance clinic. This type of challenge is most successfully handled in the early stages.

A Helpful Strategy
Remember—a strong will is a sign of good health. Your baby need’s a strong will to achieve all the milestones in the following months and years of life! Don’t be afraid of it. When thinking about and working with your baby’s emerging will, there are two aspects of Positive Parenting that are particularly important.

1. Positive Parents are understanding of their baby’s temperament.

You are an understanding Positive Parent when you:

  • Understand your baby’s temperament and work with it.
  • Build on your baby’s strengths.
  • Are flexible with your baby.

2. Positive Parents are reasonable.

You are a reasonable Positive Parent when you:

  • Are consistent and predictable.
  • Set and communicate clear limits and expectations.
  • Construct consequences for irresponsible behaviour that are natural and reasonable, but not disciplinary.

 
When did you first notice your baby’s sense of will? What did you do about it? Share your story with parents just like you by leaving a comment below.

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Preschoolers and learning to share

by Maxine
Posted December 22 2010 06:41pm
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Knowing how to share is an important skill for getting along with others, but parents shouldn't expect a child to really understand "sharing" until around the age of four.

It's not surprising that it takes time to be able to share. There is a lot to learn. Children have to be able to control their impulse to grab something. They have to be able to see another child's point of view, understand time well enough to feel that it's okay to wait for what they want and be able to talk enough to sort out who gets what, and when.

Preschoolers spend a fair amount of their playtime working out who will have what, who will do what and who can play. This is normal - it's how they practice the social skills needed for friendships. At this stage, children are better able to exchange both ideas and toys. They like to give and take.

If by age four your child still doesn't cooperate with others, and is hostile, it's best to get some help. Consult your child's physician for referrals to appropriate family services in your area.

 

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Helping your shy toddler

by Maxine
Posted August 8 2011 02:43pm
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Some children are shy. They "hang back" in groups. They need your assistance to learn how to become comfortable talking and playing with others.

The main things to remember when trying to help a child like this to cope with new situations are:

  • Don't label a child "shy" or introduce your child as a "shy child." Sometimes children will define themselves as this and never move beyond the label.
  • Don't push your child into situations that he might find overwhelming. It's important that you accept your child's nature and help him develop ways to overcome his shyness - that may take time and patience. Instead of pushing, offer your child opportunities to be involved with others with your support.
  • Prepare your child ahead of time by talking about new situations, such as what she will encounter, or who may be there, and talk with her about ways to become involved in groups.
  • Don't nag your child about being shy. Parents who get irritable or impatient with a child's shyness may find that their child reacts by being even shyer.

Remember, every child is unique. Some children will be shy, to a greater or lesser degree, all their lives. It's important for them to feel valued for who they are.

Do you have a shy toddler? Tell us about it below. Also, learn more about your child’s temperament.

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