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Temperament Trait Strategies: Intensity

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:39pm
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Intensity: On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Intensity – this child is mellow and calm.

Comfort

  • Provide lots of bonding time. These children need it, even though they don't demand it.  This helps your child become more attached to you and want to please you.

Play

  • Provide plenty of opportunities to read about big emotions from stories. For example, "The Billy Goat Gruff ROARED, "Who’s that trip-trapping over my bridge??"  This helps your child learn to delight in high intensity emotions, too.

Teach

  • Teach your baby to snuggle, kiss and hug friends and family. Not all babies do this naturally.  Have people express their love back to him, which will please him and others around him.

 

High Intensity – these children are the big responders.  They squeal delightedly with happiness and shriek with despair.

Comfort

  • Stay calm in the face of your child's out of control emotions. This helps your child feel safe enough to start to calm down herself.

Play

  • Act out and read stories that resolve big emotions with calm endings. For example, "Goldilocks was afraid of the wolf! But the hunter was calm and strong."  This helps your child learn that intense emotions can be resolved with calm emotions.

Teach

  • Show patience when your baby's emotions are running high. This will help her calm down.  This will help her learn from her most influential role model that returning to calm helps her cope with situations.

 

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Temperament Trait Strategies: Persistence

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:48pm
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Persistence : On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Persistence – this child gives up easily in face of failure.

Comfort

  • Stay close and offer encouragement when you see your child wanting to give up too early on a task.  This will help her learn to persist a bit longer than if left on her own.

Play

  • Prepare some play activities that are only slightly challenging. This will allow him to experience success, and feel good about the success that comes after what he feels is a lot of persistence.

Teach

  • Break most of his tasks into small, manageable pieces. This will keep him from feeling overwhelmed by the size of the job, and to experience success.
     

 

High Persistence – these children continue to do what they want—even when they're faced with obstacles.

Comfort

  • Show that you understand your child's desire to persist—even if you must stop him from what he is doing.  This helps your child feel loved—even if he's keenly disappointed that he has to stop.

Play

  • Encourage some variety in your child's play—even if she seems to only enjoy one thing.  This will help your child become a more well-rounded child.

Teach

  • Provide firm, clear and consistent limits when she continues to do something that is not good for her. Highly persistent babies need more of this kind of direction than other babies.  This helps your child learn what is acceptable without huge power struggles.

 

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Temperament Trait Strategies: Positivity/Mood

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:50pm
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Positivity/Mood: On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Positivity – this child is serious and more difficult to please.  These children find it hard to have a positive attitude when they experience a setback.

Comfort

  • Provide as much comfort as you can without going overboard. With children like this, you may not be able to change their overall mood.  This will help your child learn that there are limits to what others can do to make her life happier.

Play

  • Physical exercise is a great way to improve your child's mood.  Find the kinds of active play that please your baby. Then, faithfully work them into your regular routine. This will help your child enjoy the enhanced mood that comes from physical exercise.

Teach

  • Reward your baby when she smiles and expresses happiness.  This will help your child learn that these simple actions please others. In turn, others will want to make her happy, too.

 

High Positivity – these children are just generally sunny, cheerful and resilient in the face of setbacks..

Comfort

  • Provide lots of bonding time. Sometimes adults take these children for granted because they need so little to be happy.  This will help your child become attached to you and want to please you.

Play

  • Enjoy your playtime together. It's a gift to be able to play with a child who is naturally cheerful.  This will help our child learn to like to play.

Teach

  • Don't push your baby too hard. Although she's naturally cheerful when you give her challenges, she needs time to set her own goals.  This will help her become self-motivated as well as very likeable.

 

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Temperament Trait Strategies: Regularity

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:54pm
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Regularity : On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Regularity – this child is hard to predict.  It's difficult to tell when they're hungry or tired.

Comfort

  • allow your baby to graze and eat frequently throughout the day, instead of eating main meals. Being forced to eat at set times can become an area for conflict for this type of child.  This level of flexibility will help your child learn that eating time is a happy time for his family.

Play

  • at nighttime, allow your child to play by herself until she falls asleep. Some nights, she will fall asleep right away. Other nights, she will stay awake quite a while before falling asleep.  This will help her learn to entertain herself at the end of your long day.

Teach

  • keep your child in a regular bedtime routine. Even though he won't necessarily sleep at the end of the routine, it will help both of you have a regular end to your day.  This will help your child learn that nightime is for putting himself to sleep

 

High Regularity these children seem to have internal clocks that keep them on a predictable schedule, and they don't like to deviate!

Comfort

  • Comfort your baby when she's off her regular schedule.  This will help her to know you understand her—even if you can't make the world more regular for her.

Play

  • Use play to deviate from your baby's regular schedule—even if it's just a few minutes at first. Gradually lengthen the delays or changes in his schedule.  This will help your child learn to survive—and even like—more spontaneity in his life.

Teach

  • Put plans in place to help your baby de-stress if her schedule is thrown off. Carry a bag full of distractions in the car, such as food, favourite CDs or toys.  Eventually your child may learn how to de-stress himself on occasions when this happens.

 

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