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Temperament Trait Strategies: Activity

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 03:50pm
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Activity: On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Activity – this child is laid back and content to watch others be active.

Comfort

  • Avoid criticizing your baby because he likes doing things more slowly than average.  This will help your child feel comfortable with his approach to life.

Play

  • Find a few very active things she likes to do and support them. For example, take her swimming or swinging. Avoid having her sit quietly for long periods of time.

Teach

  • Plan ahead to allow him the time he needs so he does not feel rushed.  This lets him learn and do activities at his own pace.

 

High Activity – these children are the squirmers.  Even as babies they wave their arms, kick their legs and wriggle their bodies non-stop.  These children are always on the go.

Comfort

  • Anticipate your baby's next move and intervene when necessary to avoid a catastrophe.  This helps your child learn what is permitted and what is not permitted BEFORE she gets into trouble. 

Play

  • Provide lots of opportunities to help your baby burn off energy in safe, supervised sessions.  This helps your child become more inclined to settle down when it's time to sleep, learn or play quietly.

Teach

  • Provide a cool down period when it's time to switch to quiet time.  This helps your child learn how to transition successfully from high- to low-energy activities. 

 

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Temperament Trait Strategies: Intensity

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:39pm
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Intensity: On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Intensity – this child is mellow and calm.

Comfort

  • Provide lots of bonding time. These children need it, even though they don't demand it.  This helps your child become more attached to you and want to please you.

Play

  • Provide plenty of opportunities to read about big emotions from stories. For example, "The Billy Goat Gruff ROARED, "Who’s that trip-trapping over my bridge??"  This helps your child learn to delight in high intensity emotions, too.

Teach

  • Teach your baby to snuggle, kiss and hug friends and family. Not all babies do this naturally.  Have people express their love back to him, which will please him and others around him.

 

High Intensity – these children are the big responders.  They squeal delightedly with happiness and shriek with despair.

Comfort

  • Stay calm in the face of your child's out of control emotions. This helps your child feel safe enough to start to calm down herself.

Play

  • Act out and read stories that resolve big emotions with calm endings. For example, "Goldilocks was afraid of the wolf! But the hunter was calm and strong."  This helps your child learn that intense emotions can be resolved with calm emotions.

Teach

  • Show patience when your baby's emotions are running high. This will help her calm down.  This will help her learn from her most influential role model that returning to calm helps her cope with situations.

 

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Temperament Trait Strategies: Persistence

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:48pm
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Persistence : On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Persistence – this child gives up easily in face of failure.

Comfort

  • Stay close and offer encouragement when you see your child wanting to give up too early on a task.  This will help her learn to persist a bit longer than if left on her own.

Play

  • Prepare some play activities that are only slightly challenging. This will allow him to experience success, and feel good about the success that comes after what he feels is a lot of persistence.

Teach

  • Break most of his tasks into small, manageable pieces. This will keep him from feeling overwhelmed by the size of the job, and to experience success.
     

 

High Persistence – these children continue to do what they want—even when they're faced with obstacles.

Comfort

  • Show that you understand your child's desire to persist—even if you must stop him from what he is doing.  This helps your child feel loved—even if he's keenly disappointed that he has to stop.

Play

  • Encourage some variety in your child's play—even if she seems to only enjoy one thing.  This will help your child become a more well-rounded child.

Teach

  • Provide firm, clear and consistent limits when she continues to do something that is not good for her. Highly persistent babies need more of this kind of direction than other babies.  This helps your child learn what is acceptable without huge power struggles.

 

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Temperament Trait Strategies: Positivity/Mood

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:50pm
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Positivity/Mood: On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Positivity – this child is serious and more difficult to please.  These children find it hard to have a positive attitude when they experience a setback.

Comfort

  • Provide as much comfort as you can without going overboard. With children like this, you may not be able to change their overall mood.  This will help your child learn that there are limits to what others can do to make her life happier.

Play

  • Physical exercise is a great way to improve your child's mood.  Find the kinds of active play that please your baby. Then, faithfully work them into your regular routine. This will help your child enjoy the enhanced mood that comes from physical exercise.

Teach

  • Reward your baby when she smiles and expresses happiness.  This will help your child learn that these simple actions please others. In turn, others will want to make her happy, too.

 

High Positivity – these children are just generally sunny, cheerful and resilient in the face of setbacks..

Comfort

  • Provide lots of bonding time. Sometimes adults take these children for granted because they need so little to be happy.  This will help your child become attached to you and want to please you.

Play

  • Enjoy your playtime together. It's a gift to be able to play with a child who is naturally cheerful.  This will help our child learn to like to play.

Teach

  • Don't push your baby too hard. Although she's naturally cheerful when you give her challenges, she needs time to set her own goals.  This will help her become self-motivated as well as very likeable.

 

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