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Changing Priorities

by Maxine
Posted May 12 2011 11:17am
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For most couples, there just isn’t enough time to do everything that needs to be done. That means that choices are made about what gets done and what has to wait. Parents may even find that their priorities aren’t the same. This can lead to conflict, for example, if Dad is worried about finances, while Mom is worried about the safety of their older model car.

In life, priorities change and that’s totally normal. Being aware of each others' priorities can help to decrease friction and increase your ability to support one another. Download and complete the My Priorities worksheet. First, fill in your own personal priorities and then share them with each other. After sharing, you may want to alter or add to your list of priorities.

Download the My Priorities Worksheet (PDF)

Your priorities will change as your baby grows and new challenges will emerge. We recommended you review your My Priorities worksheet about every 6 months.

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My Parenting

by Maxine
Posted August 19 2010 04:24pm
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To bring Positive Parenting into action, each of you need to reflect on your own abilities and strengths for parenting. This is key information to help you support each other in becoming the parents you want to be.

Don’t worry—you don’t have to be perfect! Not every parent is terrific in every aspect of being a Positive Parent. But it is important for you to know your positive strengths, as well as the areas you hope to improve. The ideal situation is for your partner to balance you out in the areas that are the most challenging for you. If you are both a little short in the same area, it’s a good idea to bring other caring adults into your child’s life. People like grandparents, aunts and uncles, nannies and daycare providers can offer a wider base of positivity.

How’s Your Parenting?

To help you reflect on your strengths and abilities as a Positive Parent, rate yourself and your partner on the characteristics found in the worksheet below. After you’ve completed your assessments, discuss the ratings you gave yourselves and each other. Talk about the reasons why you gave the ratings you did. Share your hopes for how you want to be a Positive Parent.

Download the My Parenting Worksheet (PDF)

Try to have each parent of your child complete this worksheet.  Sharing your ratings with one another is a good way to start talking about the kind of parenting each of you wants to provide for your child.
 

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Mom and Dad Differences in Parenting

by Maxine
Posted August 20 2010 07:13pm
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He likes football; she likes dancing.
He sees the colour green; she sees chartreuse.
He goes to bed early; she stays up late.

Let’s face it! Men and women are different. And generally, moms and dads approach parenting differently—not better or worse, just differently. If these differences are used sensibly, they can be good for children.

Remember, you’re part of a parenting team. Just like any strong team, you need to understand each other’s differences.  Researchers have noted some very interesting differences between the way moms and dads tend to parent. If you’re aware of the different parenting tendencies between males and females, it may help you explain your partner’s parenting a bit more.  You can use your differences to your child’s advantage and to yours.

The experts at Invest in Kids have put together a short quiz to test you on the typical differences in parenting. You may, of course, find that in your particular family some or all of the gender roles are reversed.  No problem!  Children grow up just fine, as long as they experience positive parenting overall.

Download the Mom and Dad’s Parenting Tendencies Quiz (PDF).

 
Are these differences ones that you’ve experienced in your relationship with your partner? Do your parenting styles mesh well together? Leave a comment below and share your experience with parents just like you!
 

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Parenting as a Team

by Maxine
Posted May 10 2011 02:46pm
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Before your baby was born, each of you had special dreams and visions, along with worries and fears. Now that your baby is here, it’s time to revisit your earlier thoughts and see where things stand now. The reality for most parents is that these dreams often change as your baby grows and as you move through the transitions of early parenthood.  

Download the Parenting as a Team Worksheet (PDF).

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