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Finding Personal Time

by Maxine
Posted August 19 2010 12:17pm
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Before baby, you and your partner probably spent lots of time doing things on your own. Now that baby is here you might find that between changing diapers, feeding baby, spending quality time with baby and getting caught up on everything else that you need to do in a day finding personal time is a whole lot harder.

“New parents sometimes feel like spending time on themselves is a luxury they can’t afford,” says Kris Langille, a Registered Nurse and Parenting Expert. “Some even feel a little bit selfish for wanting personal time when they have all these other demands, but finding time for you is absolutely vital when you’re a new parent.”

Preserving some personal time for yourself is important for your mental health and for your relationship with your partner. It can help prevent any resentment towards your partner, who might seem to be getting plenty of personal time.

Our experts suggest that new parents should try to fit the following three types of personal time into your life!

  • Personal care time: As a parent, you need some time each week to get your hair cut, take an unhurried shower or go to the dentist without having to worry about your baby or other obligations.
  • Personal unplanned time: You also need a bit of time each week that is all yours—to do with as you please—without anything important planned in advance.
  • Personal social time: Each of you needs to be able to keep up with friends and colleagues—to talk with other adults without your baby or partner present

Remember, bringing your baby with you while you take care of your own needs does not count as personal time!

Take a look at our article on Making Time for You for some suggestions on how to get the most out of your personal time.


How do you find personal time in your busy life as a parent? What did you do when your baby was first born? Leave a comment below and share your experience with other parents just like you.

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